Monday, March 27, 2017

Do's and Don'ts of Online Dating for the Otaku




As an otaku, have you ever tried to date someone you liked?  If you have, then you might have an idea of how difficult it can be.  Historically, we are not known for our social graces and rejection can be hard for a person raised on media that implies that the way to romantic bliss is a letter in a shoe locker.  So what’s a lonely otaku to do?  Online dating is an option but there are some things you should know before you go rushing off all willy nilly to sign up for all the sites.  This post will offer up a few ideas on what to do to increase your success rate when looking for a companion.  BTW this is not a comprehensive list.  This is just a list of tips to get you started.  There is a myriad of info on how to date effectively, and I don’t mean how to be a pick up artist.  Google can show you the way.

Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating

If you’re looking for a girlfriend online, the best method to ensure you end up with someone compatible is by looking for these things:
  • Do look for a dating site that caters to your tastes.  With the number of specialty dating sites on the rise, it only makes sense to look for a dating site that caters to matching people up with others that enjoy the same things we do, otaku-wise.  Good sites to check out are MaiOtaku, OtakuSingles and OtakuBooty. Pros include getting connected with people who share the same interests as you.  Cons, some sites cost money in order to do any real communicating and at least in the case of MaiOtaku, most of the members are in their late twenties at the most.
  • Don’t take it personally if you’re message doesn’t get returned.  Chances are that you’re going to message a lot of people that you’re interested in.  There’s also a huge chance that most of the messages you send won’t be answered.  Don’t take offense to that.  There’s a chance that they have a lot of messages coming to them everyday.  Maybe you’re on the bottom of a very long list and they might meet someone before making it to your message. Or maybe they just aren’t into you.   It doesn’t mean that they’re teases and it doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you.  All it means is that he or she didn’t answer you.  Accept it and move on.
  • Do be careful who you interact with.  There are a lot of scammers out there.  I say this on behalf of the men that are reading this but I’ll bet there’s a lot of women out there who have to worry about losing their money or worse, but I have no examples to work with.  Perhaps any ladies reading this can leave their stories in the comments?  But I digress.  Here’s a quick primer on how to tell if you are being contacted by a grifter.  Again, I tell you this from a male point of view:
    • They start off with “dear,” “sweetie,” or some other term of endearment.  This is a minor red flag, but a red flag nonetheless.  They may be flirting, sure, but they may be buttering you up.
    • They profess their devotion to you in a very short time.  Otaku are not known for their common sense when it comes to romance.  Don’t forget, in our world, our fantasy is to have our crush profess their love to us.  But what happens in anime very very rarely happens in real life.
    • They send you very well taken photos.  If the person you’re messaging seems to be a supermodel, with no pics of him or her doing everyday things, chances are they are not who they say they are.
    • They claim to have been raised in the United States but they understand very little English.  “You know what understand me?”
    • They live in Nigeria or Ghana or they live in the States but are studying in Nigeria or Ghana and will return to the US “in a few weeks.” I can almost guarantee you that when she gets close to her leave date an emergency will pop up and she will beg you to send her money to help her return home.

Okay, that’s it!  Now that you have this list of tips to aid you on your online dating journey, you’re on your way to meeting Mr or Ms right!  Is there anything I might have missed?  Do you have any otaku dating success stories or failures?  I’d love to hear about them in the comments!